A Look, A Flip of the Hair...
Flirting is the way most people determine whether or not a member of the
opposite sex is interested in them. Following is a quick outline on how you
should go about the complex, sometimes fun, sometimes not so fun, task of
flirting. It all beings with your approach.
The Approach One person approaches the other. They move into closer
physical proximity. This much is clear: NO approach equals NO possibility of
initiating contact. You must approach!
Example: A woman sits down next to a man in a coffee shop, or a man stands
near a woman in a dance club. This is the first step. Once you approach, you
begin looking for the signs
The Signs The person who has been approached will always signal the other's
presence in some way& a sign. This signal is not like a train whistle, however,
more a subtle body language which you can learn to recognize. For example, he or
she simply may look up, move over to make room, nod slightly, or signal with a
glancing eye contact. A display of total obliviousness to the one who is
approaching generally indicates lack of interest altogether. Don't be
discouraged. But if the one you approached shows absolutely no interest, then
it's time to re-group and try again. But let's say the approach works. You have
your positive acknowledgement, now what? Time to talk
The Verbal Exchange The two people may then engage in a mild verbal exchange
about impersonal, unimportant matters such as the weather or the scene around
them. The key word here is MILD. This is the classic place for the clever
"line," but cleverness is not required. At this point, a verbal exchange is not
for the purpose of sharing valuable insights about life or determining
philosophical compatibility. It is just a vehicle to further the developing
contact. Examples: Verbal overtures might include anything from "please pass the
pickles" to "your looking great tonight", to "have you seen the waitress?".
Without some form of verbal response, it is highly unlikely that the next step
will occur. Let's say all is going as planned. Time for body language.
Body Language Over a period of time, a couple that has begun to talk may also
begin to orient themselves physically to one another, to turn toward one another
until, if all is goes well, they are fully facing one another. This is your
goal. This step can take minutes or hours . . . or weeks or months . . . to
achieve. Yet, without this physical reorientation toward one another, not very
much can ever happen, so give up on people who turn their back toward you for
long periods of time! But if they don't& .
Touching The woman or the man (most often the woman) touches the other in a
light, fleeting way. Examples: A couple might accidentally brush their hands
against one another while reaching for a drink, or the woman might pat the man
on the arm in the middle of a shared joke. The exchange of very subtle, almost
glancing touches may continue for some while, and if all goes well, can escalate
into the casual affections shown by couples who are dating. If you've reached
this point, then flirting has now become the beginning of a relationship.
The Art of Flirting should always end with the beginning of a relationship.
Now get out there and flirt. The Art of Flirting is really the Art of making
first contact. You only have one shot at making a great first impression. By
following some of the guidelines we've established in this article, you should
now be equipped to locate, approach, and ascertain whether or not your subtle
flirting has opened the doors to a new and exciting relationship. Are you able
to walk up to a girl that you've never met before and just start talking to her?
Can you keep a conversation going and never run out of interesting things to
say? Do you know how to ask a girl out on a date or get her number?
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Dating Articles By Lynn Gerino Club 555 Expert Author